Mundan or Jawal or Tonsure is a tradition in Hindu religion. It is a mandatory ceremony. Tonsure has religious reasons as well as scientific ones. I will refrain from elaborating religious reasons.
Mundan ceremony is carried out in odd months of the baby. Baby V stepped into 9 months according to the Hindu calendar.
Keep aside the religious and scientific reasons, for babies it is a hard time as they try their best to resist it. No matter how much you take care to go the ceremony smooth, babies cry and wail. A LOT.
It was same for Baby V. He was happy and smiling. As soon as the barber began to shave his head, he became uncomfortable and cried from the top of his lungs.
Nothing was soothing him. The continuous resistance from him resulted in few nicks from the blade.
I couldn’t bear to watch him cry so much. After about 10 minutes, his head was shaved and I began to calm him.
After feeding him, Baby V slept and when he woke up, he was himself – Happy and smiling.
Sometimes I think is this all pain and crying worth it for babies?
By the end of the day, it was time for rocking the bald look. I designed the onesie for Mundan ceremony. Rocking My Ganju Look!
Message me if you want a customised onesie 😀
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How you all doing? Oh, wait! You thought I was Aai (my Mommy). No, No. Let me introduce myself again.
Hello, Aai’s blog readers,
I am Baby V, the sole reason for Aai’s blog. I have taken over the blog for today. Aai wanted to write Baby V’s bathtime routine. So I told her how can you write on this topic? It’s my routine. I am the only one who can tell your readers about my experience with the bathtime routine.
My first bath was on 3 March 2020. Well, it was not an actual bath, but when I was pulled out from Aai’s tummy I was cleaned for the first time. So officially that day was my first bath. The Doctor uncle was scrubbing me and I was busy crying and taking in the new surroundings. It was so so cold. But the Doctor cleaned me thoroughly and I was ready to spread my charm with my cute chubby face.
I was in the hospital for 5 days. Nurse aunty used to wake me up from my deep sleep early in the morning at 5:30 am and take me to a bath without my consent. It wasn’t fair. She just used to pour water on me with no proper cleaning. But I used to love the water on my body. Nurse aunty also didn’t groom me will. One day she put my top front side back, the buttons poked me and I was hurt.
On Day 5, Aai refused to take Nurse aunty for a bath as I didn’t sleep well and when I fell asleep she came to take me. Aai and granny firmly said No!
When I came to Granny’s home, I took a sponge bath. For 2 days I had to take a sponge bath as Granny was scared to bathe me and Aai wasn’t allowed to sit for a long time.
In India, every kid goes through a vigorous bathing routine – Massage (Maalish) with lots of oil, then bathing. The lady is called Maalish wali Maushi. For me she was Aaji.
On the first day, she put me on her legs and started massaging me so fiercely. I cried and wailed. I continued wailing but she didn’t stop. Does every kid have to undergo this torture? Also, she used to come at 8 am, which was my sleeping time.
She used to press me and apply so much coconut oil that I looked like a bodybuilder model. Then she used to make me do exercises, crossing my arms, legs.
The only thing I used to like was the bath. Did I tell you I love bathing? Oh yes, I think so. I enjoy a warm bath. It is so relaxing.
After the bath, she used to dry me with a towel and apply loads of powder. The one thing I hated was swaddling. She used to swaddle me so tightly but I am so strong I used to loosen the swaddle and pull my hands up. Victory!
Maalish wali was only for a few days because Modi Uncle declared lockdown.
Aaji took over the job of massage and bathing me. But I didn’t like her massaging me too. So Aai decided to do my massage. She brought me Himalaya’s Baby Massage Oil which I liked better than coconut oil.
Blog readers, I love it when my Aai does my massage. She doesn’t press or pulls my muscles like maalish wali aaji. She gently massages me, rolls over my chest, my abdomen. Milking action on my arms and legs.
I love to watch my Aai when she massages me. She looks so happy and I am happy too. She teaches me the body parts during massage – left hand, right hand, left leg, right leg. She gently pulls my cheeks, ears.
I think every baby should be massaged by their mommy to create a stronger bond.
After the massage, Aai takes me to Aaji for bathing me. Aaji too had bathed me by lying me on her legs. As I was growing and putting on weight, my Aaji’s knees and arms began to pain.
So Aai decided to massage as well as bathe me. She couldn’t bathe me on her legs, so she got me a bathtub with a sling. Earlier I never liked it but I got habituated and now I like it. But now I am freer while lying on the sling, I get up, so Aai has to distract me. Elephant is my bathtime buddy. I like to play with him while my Aai bathes me.
Now I can roll over so quickly, I don’t like to lie on my back, and whenever Aai begins to dry me I turn on my side to grab all the materials she uses for grooming me.
Aai is very smart she distracts me by giving commands to Alexa to sing ABC or any nursery rhyme. She knows I like it when Alexa talks so I stay in one place and let her groom me.
Once I get ready she takes me near Jai Jai Bappa (God) and tells me to say Thank you, God.
That’s it, blog people. This was my bathtime routine. Thank you for reading and do visit again Aai and Baby V blog if you loved listening to me. Hope to see you soon.
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Colic is challenging. I tried, failed, survived. If you are a mama with a colicky baby or a pregnant mama reading, I would like to tell you, it’s going to be hard. It will make you feel a failure but it’s temporary which will pass. If the pain still lasts after trying your best, consult your paediatrician for other causes of colic.
My Colicky Baby. Understanding Colic
Colic is common in infants but Baby V had this frequently. We didn’t realize he must be in pain during the hospital stay. We thought it might be due to hunger and his oral thrush.
Day 5: We came home from the hospital and every day as soon as the evening commenced, my newborn started with the incessant wails, turning into intense red and ripping at the top of his lungs. His wailing lasted for about 2-3 hours. Once night hit, the same wails began again, every single night.
Watching him cry broke me. I just couldn’t find anything to help my baby with colic. I carried him, caressed him but nothing could calm him down. I tried swaddling, sleeping bag, bounced, paced, with no relief. I used to be drained and dejected with sleepless nights.
We were convinced his screaming in pain was due to colic and started changing my diet with the thought breastmilk was the culprit.
What I avoided eating during breastfeeding:
Spices, chillies, no masala, toor dal (pigeon peas)
I noticed leafy vegetables brought on intense colic.
Diary affected his bowel habits and stools.
We were so distressed because nothing was soothing Baby V and he cried day and night.
What were the methods I tried to relieve colic
I received advised to apply warm fomentation of carom seeds wrapped in a cloth, applying a paste of fennel seeds and carom seeds on Baby V’s belly. Still no relief. I couldn’t get him to burp, I tried all the position to hold a baby for a good burp or cycled his tiny legs to relieve the gas, but with no avail.
I spend hours googling “how do you know if baby has colic” and “how can I help my baby with colic”.
Finally, I had to take advice from my mommy friends. One of my friends suggested a home remedy for making a concoction. Boil a liter of water + ajwain (carom seeds) + fennel seeds + vaval hing (don’t know what’s it called in English, you’ll find in any Ayurveda products store). Drink this concoction throughout the day. I drank this on daily basis and it did its charm. I noticed Baby V passed lots of gases which relieved his tummy ache. He slept much better during the day as well as night.
Apart from the home remedy, while my research on baby colic treatment I came across Mamaearth Easy Tummy Roll On. It did soothe Baby V and it was an instant option to just roll it on the tummy around the naval every 20 minutes. It has peppermint oil which must be giving a cooling sensation.
Colicaid drops, a solution with fennel seed oil, Dil oil worked amazingly. I gave him 6 drops daily twice or thrice. I had a good experience with Colicacid and I can vouch for its efficacy.
During my google binging on colic treatment I came across the information that six weeks is the peak for colic. I noticed that after one and a half months there was no wailing in evening or night. Baby V slept through the night without pain (though putting him to sleep was an altogether a different experience, which I will share in next post).
The dark clouds of colic had lifted but occasionally there were thunderstorms of colic but not regular as before.
Baby V is 7 months now and his toothless grin makes me fall in love with him Every. Single. Time.
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This post is not sponsored. These are my reviews of being a first time Mom, experiencing, experimenting to help my baby with colic.
Along with physical activity, your diet plays an important role too. If you are diagnosed with Gestational DM start knowing the Glycemic Index (GI) of the food you eat. Every single of it. Let me be honest it will control your diabetes quicker. Experience talk. There are various apps based on Glycemic Index, typically they do not contain staple foods of Indian diet but they help in finding out GI of fruits.
GI is nothing but an indicator about how quickly a food consumed raises blood sugar level. High the GI = Rapid increase in blood sugar.
There will be too many pricks after delivery to ensure the blood sugar haven’t spiked. My blood sugar results were within normal limits. Remember you won’t be discharged until the sugar levels are normal.
Tip to control gestational diabetes – Mindful eating and daily physical activity. Let the sugar be in sweets and not in your blood.
Initial months post-delivery I had to cut down all the carbs, in short eat nutritious food with no masala, spices. This has been brought down by generation to generation in India. Like “Dadima ke nuskhe”. It helps a woman to recover faster post delivery.
I ate jowar bhakri, steamed vegetable soup kind of sabzi for first 2 months. I skipped jowar bhakri as I noticed Baby V always had colic when I ate it, so I switched to chapati.
Dinka che laddoo – It is a mixture of dinka / edible gum resin, dry fruits, jaggery, desiccated coconut, poppy seeds.
All of this did help me stay on my ideal weight. I can say even lockdown has an helping hand. No outside food. Once or twice a week eating Indian chaats, snacks had stopped. No cheese filled sandwich or burger.
Takeaway: Do follow our older generations instructions with regards to eating post delivery.
Physical activity during post-partum
You should not do any strenuous activities for 6 weeks postpartum. This does not mean we have to be a couch potato. 10 to 15 minutes walk post meal is sufficient to break down the calories.
Always consult a doctor about the exercises permissible after 6 weeks. Do not straight away follow any challenges going around YouTube or Social media to reduce weight.
This was about my experience with Gestational Diabetes and Post-partum weight loss. If you have any question or want to share a little bit about your own journey, please leave a comment below. Let’s held our hands and support each other because all the phases – Pre-pregnancy, Pregnancy and Post-pregnancy is hard and we need all need a virtual hug.
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The beginning of my breastfeeding was a struggle. IT WAS HARD! The pain post-cesarean made it more difficult.
I was angry and the guilt was hovering that I couldn’t feed my baby.
I had heard about breastfeeding struggles but never imagined I had to go through it too. There was no problem with the production of colostrum. The first-day post-cesarean is a resting day. No movement. No getting up. Sadly the hospital staff didn’t help me in feeding my baby. There was no guidance at all. Baby V used to have a sucking reflex but there was no latching.
To make it harder, he acquired Oral thrush on Day 3. It must have been painful for him to latch.
No one guided me to express milk and feed him by spoon. He cried due to hunger and our nights in the hospital were sleepless. Baby V slept through hunger and tired due to crying. It was so painful to watch him in that state.
The pediatrician prescribed Clotrimazole mouth paint which is bitter and Baby V had to bear it instead of sweet breast milk.
My milk ducts were beginning to clot and I was on the verge of mastitis. PAINFUL! Breast milk aka the gold was going to waste instead in the belly of my baby.
Difficult days don’t last forever, do they? Night of Day 4, nothing was soothing for Baby V. I decided to be on my feet because it was unbearable to see him crying. I carried him in my arms close to my chest, swayed him lightly, sang a lullaby, he kept watching me through his tiny eyes, and slept. I held him for about 4 hours in my arms. My back was giving up but I couldn’t put him down because he needed the golden sleep.
On Day 5, Baby V though with a bit of struggle was able to latch and for the very first time, I knew his tummy was full as he slept like a happy baby throughout the journey back home.
Lessons learned –
#1 Reading about breastfeeding isn’t enough. Take the help of a lactation consultant.
#2 Make sure the one staying over with you in the hospital knows about breastfeeding.
#3 Baby recognizes you, the connection was built even before the birth!
#4 Guilt won’t solve problems.
#5 You as a mother knows what’s best for your baby.
I am grateful I have been breastfeeding Baby V for 7 months. I introduced him to solid foods at age of 5 months. I still breastfeed him alternating with solid food.
There are 3 – 4 night feeds now. I have noticed he wakes up around the same time each night.
Breastfeeding products for New Moms
Let me clear it beforehand, I am not suggesting a breast pump here because I myself have never used it. So I can’t share any experience regarding it. Sometimes I do feel I should have used it at the beginning during the poor latch phase. Anyway, let us move ahead. The following product reviews are my personal and not sponsored or paid for.
A must buy! Invest in a good nursing pillow. I use Baybee Nursing Pillow. It supports your back, positions your baby perfectly to reach the nipple. Remember you need it during the countless sleepless nights.
The lockdown restricted going outdoors so I haven’t used it often. But I had bought Feather Hug nursing cover = a good breathable cotton nursing cover. The belt is adjustable according to your preference, you can tie it from behind. It also has a small pouch at the one end. It is super soft and doesn’t heat up while breastfeeding.
The right breast was on the verge of developing severe mastitis. I had to manually drain it as the milk supply was more. So due to continuous left-sided breastfeeding, the nipple had gone sore. I can’t even express the pain in words. I immediately had to buy a nipple cream. After browsing through reviews I bought Mother Sparsh Nipple Butter Cream for Breastfeeding Moms, Virgin Coconut Oil and Organic Shea Butter. And it saved me from the sore nipple. It is organic so I had no worry in case if I forgot to wipe it off before breastfeeding.
I can’t stress enough about the benefits of Shatavari. It is an ayurvedic ingredient used since ancient to improve breast milk production. From the beginning, I have been taking Shatavari supplements from Himalaya. I have tried their syrup and tablets. I prefer Shatavari tablets and have been taking it twice a day.
This is my experience with the breastfeeding struggle and the breastfeeding products that have been helping me. Have you experienced the same? If yes, what helped you ease the breastfeeding. Do leave them in the comments.
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